https://www.withinwithoutholism.com/blog daily 0.75 2026-05-20 https://www.withinwithoutholism.com/blog/self-actualization-is-intersectional monthly 0.5 2022-07-20 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5e7c1477463133472f2e9d6e/fbf2e90d-3e10-41b3-a3e2-6f120c087cac/bell.jpg blog - self-actualization is intersectional - “Males as a group have and do benefit the most from patriarchy, from the assumption that they are superior to females and should rule over us. But those benefits have come with a price. In return for all the goodies men receive from patriarchy, they are required to dominate women, to exploit and oppress us, using violence if they must to keep patriarchy intact. Most men find it difficult to be patriarchs. Most men are disturbed by hatred and fear of women, by male violence against women, even the men who perpetrate this violence. But they fear letting go of the benefits. They are not certain what will happen to the world they know most intimately if patriarchy changes. So they find it easier to passively support male domination even when they know in their minds and hearts it is wrong. Again and again men tell me they have no idea what it is feminists want. I believe them. I believe in their capacity to change and grow. And I believe if they knew more about for feminism they would no longer fear it, for they would find in feminist movement the hope of their own release from the bondage of patriarchy. Imagine living in a world where there is no domination, we are females and males are not alike or even always equal, but where in visual of mutuality is the ethos shaping our interaction. Imagine living in a world where we can all be who we are, a world of peace and possibility. Feminist revolution alone will not create such a world; we need to end racism, class elitism, imperialism. 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Heather Penzel, MA Spiritual Director | Reiki Practitioner | Queer & Non-Binary My Story My awareness of God's presence began early—raised in a Christian home where I knew about the divine in my head, but not yet in my heart. That changed when I entered adulthood and faced a personal struggle with depression. I issued an ultimatum to the Divine: "I need You to make what I know in my head about Your love real in my heart, or I don't want to do this anymore.” What followed was a journey that would reshape my entire understanding of faith.. I spent time in a charismatic Vineyard Church community that became like family, incubating my tender heart. Then came a transformative 6-month internship spending midnight to 6am in a prayer room. It was in contemplative prayer that I most clearly heard God's voice and felt divine love. I learned that while charismatic experiences can be like throwing gasoline on a small flame, the contemplative tradition is the slow-burning heat that transforms us from within. Finding my way home When I discovered Quakerism during seminary, everything shifted. I sensed God sitting quietly with me, allowing me to be in my anger and rage without correction, judgment, or turning away. This transformed my images of the divine and allowed me to finally accept myself as a queer, non-binary person. That experience of being held without judgment—of being seen and loved exactly as I am—became the foundation of my work as a spiritual director. More recently, I've been influenced by teachers and practitioners outside the Christian tradition: Hawayo Takata, Papa Joe Delamere, Ram Dass, Chani Nicholas, Eckhardt Tolle, and the poet Hafiz. It's been a beautiful season of seeing the values of Jesus lived out in diverse streams of faith. Today, I'm part of a local Quaker meeting and a spiritual recovery program. Tobias Keene, D.D.S. Hailing from Richmond, Virginia, Dr. Tobias Keene brings a bit of unabashed Southern hospitality to all his patients. He moved to Washington, D.C. over thirty years ago as a freshman at Ivy College. Right after graduation, he attended World University’s School of Dentistry. Before opening Keene Dental in 1994, he worked for free clinics and some of the finest practices in the District. He is part of the 123 Dental Association and stays up-to-date on the latest dental discoveries. 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