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They are not certain what will happen to the world they know most intimately if patriarchy changes. So they find it easier to passively support male domination even when they know in their minds and hearts it is wrong. Again and again men tell me they have no idea what it is feminists want. I believe them. I believe in their capacity to change and grow. And I believe if they knew more about for feminism they would no longer fear it, for they would find in feminist movement the hope of their own release from the bondage of patriarchy. Imagine living in a world where there is no domination, we are females and males are not alike or even always equal, but where in visual of mutuality is the ethos shaping our interaction. Imagine living in a world where we can all be who we are, a world of peace and possibility. Feminist revolution alone will not create such a world; we need to end racism, class elitism, imperialism. 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